Today I'm happy to release the video that is a bit more personal in that, it is something that portrays something very important in my life and that is kink. Violet and I were excited to show you Punishing the Nun's Hypocrisy: A Humiliation Scene. I have been in the lifestyle sine 2011 and whenever I wasn't writing erotica, drawing ENF art, or making films, I have been and am actively involved in my kinky community. If you follow my newsletter (check your spam folders if you haven't been getting them!), then you may have heard me talk about how kink has been central to my growth, helping me learn to be a better communicator and also expanding my own emotional and artistic growth. Violet Vixen and I were friends before we made films together, and have enjoyed the pleasure of doing scenes at events.
When I debuted my mask on Instagram, Violet had reached out asking to do a scene together. Initially, I thought it would be a scene in private but then I thought that this could be an opportunity where we could enjoy a scene together and also showcase what a humiliation scene could look like. I have previously written on the complex, diverse way humiliation and embarrassment can be utilized in a scene. Beyond stripping someone of their clothes, there can be other elements of embarrassment, humiliation, and shame. There can be verbal teasing or bullying, exposing someone's secrets that they'd be embarrassed if they were shown, or tapping into the way in which religion uses shame to enforce its values.
With humiliation, I saw this as the chance for us to have fun including several of my favorite elements in kink - rope, impact play, and stripping. We wanted to have a slight horror element and with that in mind, I wanted to bring back Sister Francesca from the Embarrassed Naked Nun
I have seen several humiliation themed videos on Kink.com. There are mixed stories about how ethical they are in how they treat models as representation of kink. They showcase a preshoot interview where they negotiate what will be done in the scene and what the safe words are. It's not clear however, if the negotiation being shot is part of the scene itself or an actual negotiation. Kink.com has a lot of Public Disgrace scenes, which sways on the side of humiliation/degredation than embarrassment. I have found myself less into the more degrading aspect of the scene than I enjoy the beginning where the person is stripped of their clothes and acts embarrassed. It was this tone that Violet and I had in mind when we talked about shooting a long scene. I wanted something that would be more kink-focused, but also enjoyable for an Embarrassed and Exposed audience as I get feedback that they are not as interested in the more kink heavy aspects of the genre.
The idea at the time was that my character would be more of a scary type figure. This of course was before we ended up making me a silly, cartoon trope in Shego Stripped to her Tighty Whiteys. My style with an actual humiliation scene is humorous. There was a period where I was a standup comic and what has stayed with me was my ability to roast someone in a teasing/bullying type of humor that works well with embarrassment and humiliation. Admittedly, I myself was nervous about being on camera for such a long time. As someone with my own personal experience with anxiety, perfectionism sometimes spills into that, making me trip up on my words or stutter or become hesitant. I was worried this might show up on camera as I played with Violet. This would definitely disrupt the perfectionist in me with editing and the thought of being so concerned about something not turning out "perfect" that I'd hesitate from posting was a worst-case-scenario fear that I knew I'd have to keep at bay.
That did not happen however, because Violet and I have played several times before and so I felt comfortable being on camera because we had established trust and care for each other long before that. This is important in kink because when it works, as I think you'll see in this video, the players are fully present in the scene and time flies by because we're not in our heads thinking about "what if" anxieties, we're fully present, and that is what I find fulfilling about kink, when the magic is there, it is truly a mentally transformative experience where you can take on a role you otherwise might not embody in real life, and it gives your mind a sense of healing, purpose, and excitement to create something powerful.
In any scene, it is more complex than simply striking someone, tying someone up, or being tied or being hit. It is a risky practice, there is no way there is zero percent chance that harm could be done mentally or physically. That is why, it requires constant communication and constant check in throughout a scene. What you see is an edited video to tell a story, what you don't see is the safe words Violet and I negotiated before a scene, what we agreed would and wouldn't happen in the scene, and adjustments that needed to be made during the scene in terms of how intense things would be. In any scene, at any time, something can change and the previously planned scene might need to change. This can be due to someone's body experiencing pain or discomfort that was not planned or even a psychological trigger that requires ending the scene early. While safe words are one way to minimize risk of harm, sometimes that doesn't always work either. This is why it's also important to observe each other's nonverbal language, their facial expressions, an abrupt silence after they were talking a lot, or even a freeze response. We had to constantly monitor each other's and our own internal response to make sure it was safe to continue playing. The challenge for me was that the mask made it slightly more challenging to observe Violet's reactions, although I kept close watch the entire time while also staying in character.
Violet did amazing work. Not only did she also have to act in character for the whole scene, she had to do so while in a position that over a long period of time was uncomfortable. The setup we chose was one that Violet felt most comfortable in for sustaining the pose for a long time. yet, even though she felt comfortable, over time, that pose with wrists tied to a hard metal pole while being flogged, caned, and spanked with a crop would add tension and more intense physical effort over time. Having been tied myself with the intent to hold a pose for a long period of time, by the end of ten even twenty minutes can be intense. Your body starts to shake, muscles are tense and you have to constantly check in with your tying partner to let them know if adjustments need to be made. So, big hats off to Violet for being able to sustain that pose, to sustain being spanked all while acting in what was a long-form improvised humiliation scene. There were was actually only once instance where we had to make adjustments to the intensity of the scene but otherwise, what you see is the scene that we shot in one take. A performance like this does not happen easily, but for us it did because of our long-term friendship and experience playing before.
You may find Punishing the Nun's Hypocrisy a Humiliation Scene different from my other ENF videos. however, we hope you give it a shot and enjoy it as a representation of kink between two close friends who both share a love for celebrating the power of telling a story through rope, canes, floggers, and of course, exposure ;).
