Our kinks develop over time and for most people there is a sense of alienation we feel when we think it won't be accepted. Early in my developing kinky interests, I had what felt like a unique fetish that was as embarrassing to talk about to partners as the actual kink itself: Embarrassed Nude Females. To be clear, the embarrassment can apply to someone of any gender identity, enf is just my own favorite kink. A more broad term is "forced stripping."
If you're involved in any erotic art, you may have stumbled on the acronym #enf along with a picture of a naked woman posing with a look of shock on her face as she tries to cover herself. She might be wearing underwear at which that is Embarrassed Underwearclad Females. The fetish is a callback to the slapstick era of comedy in which Benny Hill would accidentally strip a woman down to her lingerie, pinup models would blush as their skirts got caught in a doorway, and of course there was Marilyn Monroe in the Seven Year Itch. A vacuum sucks up a dress, a sword slices a belt holding up a pair of trousers, or maybe an unsuspecting person is caught naked taking a shower. The result is the same, a blushing face and an attempt to remain modest when the person is caught in a moment of vulnerability.
So what is it about this fetish that makes it so popular on Deviant Art? How many times can someone be stripped naked before it becomes boring? It depends on the kinkster. For me, my panty fetish always kept the embarrassment kink interesting. I always felt that embarrassing underwear, whether that's heart print panties on a tough biker, a skimpy thong on a conservatively dressed professor, or "granny" panties on a young adult, panty play gives every old embarrassing situation a unique touch. I go deeper into this in my book The Immodest Collection: Stories of Exposure and Shame, but I think what makes it click is that a person's choice of underwear gives us a subconscious look into their personality. They made a choice to wear the garment under their clothes, they just didn't expect to show it off to anyone.
What also makes embarrassment fun, it still plays with power dynamics and can be accessible to anyone. Embarrassment and being stripped is a literal '"loss of power" and any willing partner can have fun becoming submissive as they shed their armor. someone dressed in a police uniform can try to boss you around, but it's a different story once they lose the uniform and suddenly feel self conscious about being exposed. Does this seem corny? It probably is, there is a camp element to this kink that makes it hard for everyone to get into, so make it accessible for you. What embarrasses you? What makes you blush?
I could write about embarrassment all day, but it's a lot harder to do that when collaborating with professional fetish models like my friend Jordana Leigh. Jordana and I met online about a year ago and she was nice enough to let me send a script to her. I was so excited to have her adapt one of my stories, not realizing that shooting enf was a LOT different from writing it. Also new to me was having to write stories within a budget, the comfort levels of the model, and quick shooting schedules (I do not know how Jordana does it, she makes about two videos a week).
Instead of taking a month to write an in depth story, I have maybe two days to write a quick embarrassment concept that is shootable for Jordana and that process has been really fun. The collaboration we did on The Evaporator (with the sexy Karly Salinas and Pisces) started as a simple superhero idea I thought would be fun because it's easy to do quick edits to make it look like her clothes disappear.
This is not at all a new concept, but with the superhero element we have an exciting factor in this embarrassing scenario. Superheroes are often believed to be invincible and the loss of Karly's uniform literally strips her of her powers. As she tries to cover herself from being seen on live television, there is something sexy about seeing what we're not supposed to see. What I also like about embarrassment is that it is softcore fun that any couple can engage in. As mentioned before, embarrassment is about the revealing of secrets so enjoy exploring them between the two of you.
So if this has caught your interest, check out Jordana's Shame Shack and buy her videos. http://theshameshack.com/
You can find my enf book on Amazon and Smashwords: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/693640
Do research, reflect on what you're willing to reveal, and have fun objectifying (or be objectified) through limitless scenarios! Happy humiliation day!
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